I already showed you the picture of me photobombing Michelle Williams, now it’s time for me to tell you all about our interview. I’m sure walking in to a room where 25 moms are waiting for you may be a bit intimidating. Michelle was so beautiful and graceful in person. Truly like a pixie fairy with a smile that just would not stop. She got a kick out of us being Mom Bloggers and really related to us on that level. She even reads Mom Blogs on occasion! I love when you get to meet a celebrity and they are even more humble and down to earth than you through they would be. She even shares a helpful tip about gaining a few minutes each day! Now for the interview:
Q : Are you prepared to have legions of little girls flocking around you?
MICHELLE : You know, in all truthfulness, it was maybe the most exciting thing for me was, was to realize, because we made it on a sound stage, and you’re sort of locked down. Nobody really comes in and out, but the- there are these little girls, this little extra, the, Quadling children, and I would walk by them in full costume, you would just hear, awww, ohhh, They were really shy, waving, and I was like, wow, I didn’t, I hadn’t entertained this possibility at all, that I would delight young children.
I was thinking about delighting one young child, and I didn’t realize there would be more than one. What feels better in this whole world than making a kid smile? So that’s fine with me.
Q : How do you balance your career with motherhood?
MICHELLE : I was afraid you might ask something like that. I mean, how do you, how does anybody do it? It is like an Olympian undertaking. Okay, what have I figured out? What have I really learned? They’re all such hard lessons, too, I find. Like, when you really arrive at something that’s like true and honest, it’s taken you so long to get there, and you had to work so hard for it.
Because it’s just not what you think it’s gonna be, and nobody really prepares you for it. Nobody really tells you the truth, which is that it’s not possible. It’s not possible to do both things (career and motherhood) well at the same time, especially not if you are exacting, and maybe a Virgo. If your really critical and ask a lot of yourself. I think, every mother that I know asks a lot of themselves. So what I’m trying to wrap my head around is that it’s to get comfortable with the moments. To get comfortable with the fact that it’s gonna feel like a scale, and I’m never gonna arrive at a perfect balance. It’s always gonna be a give and take.
Something’s always gonna feel like it’s suffering, like it’s undeserved. That’s really hard on your heart. To feel like you’re not being the best parent that you could be, or you’re not being the best at your job that you could be. That’s what I’m really trying to get peaceful with the fact that I’m always going to feel like that and that is the equation., For as long as I choose to or have to stay in this position where I work and where I parent. It’s so hard.
I mean, I’d be more apt to ask you guys, like, one of you figure it out. What works for you? What doesn’t? What are the tricks? What are the hints? Like, what do you give up?
This is, like, a big epiphany for me recently. I was like, I am not gonna wash my dishes before I put them in the dishwasher. I find it so hard to make some time for myself. I am not gonna spend fifteen minutes pre-washing. Why would I do that? I’m looking for time everywhere, in every corner, every day, and here I am, pre-washing my dishes. Not any more. Silverware, going in there. Knives, going in there.
So that’s where I try and buy back time where I can. Somebody, a friend of mine said something to me once, he said recently that really stuck with me. He said, everybody thinks that you should spend your, time making money, but I think you should spend your money making time. I’m like, yeah.
Q : You were amazing. What was your inspiration?
MICHELLE : Thank you. I thought a lot about her. I’ve watched that movie passively for years, and watched it with my daughter. Sam said something really interesting to me in the beginning. He said there’s a reason that Glinda, the Good Witch doesn’t go down the Yellow Brick Road, and that she’s not on the journey, because she’s one dimensional.
She needs to learn about herself, and thus she’s like the least relatable character.I thought, right, that’s a good point. We don’t wanna do that. We want people to feel like they’re on a journey with Glinda, too, and that she isn’t this sort of crystalized version who knew it all along. We want her to have struggle, we want her to be human. What does she have to struggle with because she doesn’t have a split nature, you know. She’s not struggling with her- what is she allowed, how can she still be good, and innocent, and believe the best in people, but still have a struggle?
And obviously, she’s struggling for the freedom of these people. She’s struggling a little bit with her own self doubt. I thought a lot about transformation. She’s not somebody who’s had a perfectly easy ride. She lost her father. She’s in charge of these sort of refugees, but she doesn’t really know how to protect them and how to make them see.
I can’t say that those aren’t things that I’ve weighed in my life. So I thought a lot about transformation and how Glinda transforms these dark and dire situations. Who transforms tears into bubbles, that she makes the best out of a rotten situation because of a way that she chooses to look at it. That takes a lot of energy and it’s not entirely human.
It is a super-human quality, although I have seen it on, like, Sam, our director. By the way, one wife, five kids. One wife and five kids. It’s amazing. He’s such a cool guy. He had that attitude, you know. It’s like a really tough job to make a movie that’s this big. Can you imagine, all those personalities, like a hundred and fifty people, and all their personalities, all their jobs, all their questions. Sam is, like, the funnel for all of it. And he maintained this exuberant and this buoyancy, and this belief in the possibility, and he was interested in what everybody had to say.
So in some ways, you know, I was inspire. I think a lot about my daughter. I kinda thought a lot about Sam as kind of Glinda the Good Witch. And I thought about, like, Joan of Ark and, you know, heroes.
MICHELLE : No, well, you guys, thank you. I never really posted anything on a blog because I don’t really know how to, but I, I think that every mother has the same question that we were all asking. Like, how do you do it? How do you be a mom, and be a parent, and maybe even try and be in a relationship, and the end, also be, be yourself. It’s not mom, or a worker. How do you make all of that work and have- providing this kind of conversation about it, and like this kind of access to it is awesome. So thank you guys for doing it. You guys, thank you.
***Disclosure: I’m attending The #DisneyOzEvent . My flight, lodgings, and expenses were covered by Disney. All opinions are 100% mine. ***